Once you are in a relationship you would always want to open up to your partner.
Well, communication is a major factor between two people who want their relationship to last longer, but that does not necessarily mean you have to tell him or her everything.
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Some times its healthy to keep some things to yourself. Below are some of the things, thoughts you should keep to yourself.
Your Body Count.
The number of people you have have slept with should always be a secret you would never want you reveal to your boyfriend.
According to Tracey Cox, a popular English author and columnist who specializes on dating, sex and relationships, people would always judge you with the answer you give them.
She suggests that it’s better to remain quiet and only tell your doctor, gynecologist or other medical professionals who need your sexual history for medical reasons.
She says, people will always use your body count against you.
Your Sexual history.
It will always annoy him or her when you start narrating how you had sex in the kitchen, car hotel or in a bathroom.
Much irking you were on the act with a random guy, but it’s not that he would like hearing it even if its from your ex.
Telling your partner about someone who has a crush on you
Opening up to your lover that someone told you that you are attractive is one way of creating trouble in your calm relationship.
Someone told told you he has a little mini crush on you? Keep it to yourself, as long as you stand firm with your relationship.
You find someone attractive.
It is normal finding someone attractive and you should not be ashamed, however, you would always create jealousy, hatred and break ups if you tell him or her about the attraction.
Just never tell your partner you have a crush on someone, but also stay loyal.
Your family hates your partner.
Never tell your lover about your family’s opinions about them. It’s always hurting hearing that your partner’s parents don’t like you.
It will always lead to break ups. The same thing, never tell you partner you hate their parents.
You can always do the above when you are tired of the relationship.
You still have feelings for an Ex
This can happen at a time you just joined a new relationship after ending the previous one. It’s a time you are recovering. You would always find yourself having complicated feelings for your ex which is totally normal but unhealthy to tell you current lover.
You snooped through their stuff
Snooping through you partners stuff is a dreadful, terrible and real bad idea, if you do please stop.
In a relationship the partners should trust each other unconditionally, and respect each other’s right to privacy and personal space.
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If you have to be nosy, then keep whatever you came across to yourself.
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